G'day Mate....can We Talk Video Series

Ep1 – Are Your Thoughts Controlling You

Specialist: Scott Bowden (Psychologist)

Part A Overview: The internal dialogue (thoughts) that constantly plays in the background of our mind. Can’t stop thoughts coming into our heads. ABC Model: Activate – the events that happen to us. Belief – how we think about things that happen to us (self-talk). Consequence – emotional and behavioral responses.

Part B Overview: Negative thoughts can dangle like bait on a hook in the water below a boat. If the fish swims around looking at the bait, smells it, bumps into it and has a little nibble, it will eventually become hooked. Got to recognise the negative thoughts (bait) and divert attention and energy away from the negative thoughts (bait). Gratitude is the most powerful tool to break away from dwelling on negative thoughts (moving from B to C).

Ep2 – Burnout

Specialist: Peter Janetzki (Counsellor / Psychotherapist / Educator)

Part A Overview: Defining mental and physical fatigue and where it starts. Knowing when we over-extend ourselves and where the drive comes from.

Part B Overview: Stretching our adrenal system and allowing time to allow it to come back. (Taking the stretch out of the rubber band to allow it to retain its elasticity) Fatigue and exhaustion can only be achieved by rest. Stress is a good thing, but not too much bad stress or distress. Understanding our capacity and limits of balance (can change with age). 8 therapeutic lifestyle changes (TLCs) to prevent and assist recovery from burnout

Ep3 – What Women Want

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialists: Gretchen Mitchell (Psychologist)

Part A Overview: The difference between what men seek and what women seek. The importance of the process of listening and being a champion to your wife. Showing initiative to see what is important and ask to assist or be proactive in actioning assistance. Working together in family gatherings. When is ‘fine’ not ‘fine.’ Most women like kindness as a quality in a man.

Part B Overview: What intimacy typically means for men and women. Hitting a brick wall on an issue repeatedly can have a background story. Need to be gentle and give your partner time. Don’t le the sun go down on your anger means addressing it and giving the problem or issue to God, not solving it before you go to sleep.

Ep4 – Narcissism

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk?
Specialist: Peter Janetzki (Counsellor / Psychotherapist / Educator)

Part A Overview: Defining infantile narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Pervasive characteristics of narcissistic behaviours.

Part B Overview: Treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Further explaining indulgent, unhealthy self-love. Supporting others who may be subjected to narcissistic abuse.


Ep5 – Crucial Conversations

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialist: Darren Copland (Career Coach / Leadership Trainer / Strategic Planner)

Part A Overview: Engaging in difficult conversations and how we react (naturally and intentionally) to them. Conversations when the stakes are high. How to have a conversation in a loving relationship. Assuming the best in others. There doesn’t have to be a winner in a conversation.

Part B Overview: The Victim, the Villain and the Helpless story – The victim story – it’s all bad The villain story – it’s all your fault The helpless story – I can’t do anything about it. Being aware of large generalisations (‘always’ or ‘never’ statements). Becoming more aware of what our story is. The practice of not reacting.

Ep6 – What Men Think They Want

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialists:  Peter Janetzki (Counsellor / Psychotherapist / Educator) & Chris Mitchell (Culture and Connection Coach)

Disclaimer: Mature Content Advisory The video contains candid and mature discussions about topics related to sex and pornography intended for male adult audiences. Viewer discretion is advised.

Part A Overview: Sex – expectations once married. Managing our sex-drive. Sex is not a need. No one dies from not having sex. You don’t own your partner’s body parts. The impact of pornography. Emotional and physical needs of men and women.

Part B Overview: When sex is no longer an option (temporarily or permanently). The impact of porn on our sex drive. Keys to deeper connection. The practice of self-control.

Ep7 – Breaking Addictions

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialist: Scott Bowden (Psychologist)

Part A Overview Definition of an addiction (listed over page). Some people are more vulnerable to addictive behaviour than others. The power of addiction. Relief, Reward, Recreation, Relationship.

Part B Overview 4 Key Areas to Addiction Recovery – Humbly admit we have a problem. Give ourselves time for the brain’s reward system (dopamine) to heal. Learn to meet our core emotional needs in healthy and adaptive ways. Understanding the spiritual heart of addiction.

Ep8 – Marriage

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialists:  Gretchen Mitchell (Psychologist) & Chris Mitchell (Culture and Connection Coach)

Overview Helping each other become the best version of who we were meant to be. Dealing with life-changes as we grow in a relationship. Marriage is the next level of self-awareness. Establishing boundaries in your relationship. Managing conflict. The importance and value of seeking external professional assistance. The importance of training/therapy to maintain a good relationship.

Ep9 – Safe Churches & Our Responsibilities

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialists: Trevor Ruthenberg (Lutheran Church Australia QLD District Executive Officer), Jim Strelan (Retired Lutheran Pastor) & Peter Janetzki (Counsellor / Psychotherapist / Educator)

Part A Overview Why we need policies and processes and how they keep our kids safe. Our obligation to keep people safe. Regulations to keep children safe. How the Lutheran Church has responded since 2007.

Part B Overview How legislation has changed. Abuse is the misuse of power. Why people don’t report abuse. How to report abuse.

Ep10 – Going Beyond How Are You Going

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk?
Specialist: Peter Janetzki (Counsellor / Psychotherapist / Educator)

Part A Overview
Having the vulnerability to go deeper about how we’re going with someone who cares.
Listening to understand – not listening to respond.
Don’t butt in.
Don’t hijack with your own stories, especially when some tells you about their health issue.

Part B Overview
Things that stops us from going deeper
Unpacking CURE
Connect Well
Understand
Respond
Evaluate & Engage Help
The Johari Window
Judgmentalism