G'day Mate....can We Talk Video Series

Ep1 – Are Your Thoughts Controlling You

Specialist: Scott Bowden (Psychologist)

Part A Overview The internal dialogue (thoughts) that constantly plays in the background of our mind. Can’t stop thoughts coming into our heads. ABC Model: Activate – the events that happen to us. Belief – how we think about things that happen to us (self-talk). Consequence – emotional and behavioral responses.

Part B Overview Negative thoughts can dangle like bait on a hook in the water below a boat. If the fish swims around looking at the bait, smells it, bumps into it and has a little nibble, it will eventually become hooked. Got to recognise the negative thoughts (bait) and divert attention and energy away from the negative thoughts (bait). Gratitude is the most powerful tool to break away from dwelling on negative thoughts (moving from B to C).

Ep2 – Burnout

Specialist: Peter Janetzki (Counsellor / Psychotherapist / Educator)

Part A Overview Defining mental and physical fatigue and where it starts. Knowing when we over-extend ourselves and where the drive comes from.

Part B Overview Stretching our adrenal system and allowing time to allow it to come back. (Taking the stretch out of the rubber band to allow it to retain its elasticity) Fatigue and exhaustion can only be achieved by rest. Stress is a good thing, but not too much bad stress or distress. Understanding our capacity and limits of balance (can change with age). 8 therapeutic lifestyle changes (TLCs) to prevent and assist recovery from burnout

Ep3 – What Women Want

G’Day Mate…Can We Talk? Specialists: Gretchen Mitchell (Psychologist)

Part A Overview The difference between what men seek and what women seek. The importance of the process of listening and being a champion to your wife. Showing initiative to see what is important and ask to assist or be proactive in actioning assistance. Working together in family gatherings. When is ‘fine’ not ‘fine.’ Most women like kindness as a quality in a man.

Part B Overview What intimacy typically means for men and women. Hitting a brick wall on an issue repeatedly can have a background story. Need to be gentle and give your partner time. Don’t le the sun go down on your anger means addressing it and giving the problem or issue to God, not solving it before you go to sleep.